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“I think your work is amazing and changes women’s lives. I love your book and your personality as a whole. You are VERY smart woman and I love how you show women to take control of their lives and not wait passively for Prince Charming.
Caroline, 40
“I met Charlie on Match, and I have no doubt that my sessions with you helped a lot! After a few months of dating we fell in love and are crazy about each other and became exclusive. He has all the qualities I am looking for. He is committed and devoted, caring and loving and expressive of his feelings. I’m a different woman from before. I learned so much from our sessions about myself through the inner work I did, and today I know my own worth and Charlie came at the right time! It’s been 6 months since we met, I’ve met his family and friends and he’s met my friends, etc., and I couldn’t be happier!
Amanda, 37
“Once I decided I was going to start dating again, I knew my wardrobe needed a little update. Being a busy professional I just didn’t have time to keep up with styles and I tend to buy the same things over and over. So, I decided I would give Neely’s Ultimate Makeover service a try. First she came by to help me sift through my current wardrobe. She helped me understand what my body shape is and we talked about my style needs and desires. She gave me good ideas as to what was and wasn’t working and helped me purge items that probably would have just sat in my closet forever — items that didn’t excite me and items that unnecessarily camouflaged my figure. The next day, we went on the shopping trip. We met at a convenient location with my ideal style and budget in mind. I tried on clothes I would have never tried on and received feedback on what was flattering. I still love the clothes I got when I was shopping with Neely. I can wear them with confidence, knowing I look fabulous.
Karen, 35
“Neely improved the daunting task of looking into my closet each day.  When I get dressed now, it’s a much more positive experience, and I have more outfits that I feel comfortable and stylish in.  I also feel that I know what to look for when trying on new (or old) clothes to make sure they are going to complement my shape.  It was enlightening!
Laurie, 36
“I am really happy with my profile rewrite. Neely did a great job focusing on what’s important and writing a zipppy and alluring profile that you can be proud of. She is able to take a lot of information and condense it into an upbeat, positive profile which really shows who you are and what you’re looking for. She is responsive and gives great advice. I definitely recommend her.
Caroline, 43
“Neely is one of my very favorite writers and Boston’s top dating coach. She has completely changed how I approach my love life. She teaches women to become the CEO, founder and enTREPreneur of their dating and love lives. You will love following her dating advice blog because it contains helpful and sound dating advice. Whenever I have a question, Neely has personally given me fantastic advice on how to deal with certain dating situations. She has an amazing heart and wants you to find the love you deserve. I love that she shows women how to take control of their lives and not wait passively for Prince Charming.
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“In my years of writing stories about dating, Neely has absolutely become my go-to expert for relationship insights. She’s this amazing hybrid of straight-shooter and cheerleader, and her advice is always spot-on. (It’s uncanny how often she’s right.) On a professional level, I know I can turn to her to give readers the relationship roadmap they need on just about any topic. On a personal level, she’s been an awesome person to work with – and if ever faced with a love-related roadblock, she’s one of the few dating coaches I’d trust.
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“The idea that smart, career-minded women should devote themselves to a series of rules that manipulate (clearly insecure) potential mates into maintaining interest makes me sad, and honestly, has turned me off the whole genre. But Neely Steinberg’s Skin in the Game: Unleashing Your Inner Entrepreneur to Find Love is one of the few women-oriented books covering dating and relationships that doesn’t offend me. Steinberg’s premise is essentially this: Treat your love life as you would a start-up. You, as an entrepreneur, are responsible for investing in your dream love life. You imagine it. You create it. You own it. Steinberg doesn’t offer rules, or do’s and don’ts — rather, she provides strategies for being more mindful of who you are and want you want, as well as lots of emphasis on self-love, a concept typically absent from the genre. What’s helpful about this book is that it routinely encourages self-reflection. This is huge. Steinberg demands you to sit with your thoughts, no matter how uncomfortable, and reflect on your unhealthy (and healthy) patterns and habits. So whatever your ultimate love agenda may be, even if you don’t have one, the book’s exercises are highly valuable.” Read the full review
“I have totally STUDIED your book! I have a few dates lined up next week; it’s amazing when you start making a strategy, as you say, who and what can appear in your life. I have told all my single girls about your book…it’s such a unique approach that a lot of professional women can relate to!
Alyssa, 36
“Neely is not only a great dating coach, but a great life coach, too. She forced me to look at the root of my problems with dating in order to fix them and move forward to achieve my goals. She first empowered me to truly believe that I can and will find someone and then worked with me to figure out how I would do it. She reminded me that even though I think I’m bad at dating, I’m actually an awesome person who would be considered a catch to any single guy. It’s not an overnight process as she says, but I don’t think I would have come nearly as far without her sage advice and insight. I learned many things from Neely, including my personal fears about dating and how I feel about myself when dating. I realized that I needed to stop caring so much what others thought and be true to myself and that life is simply too short to worry so much. Anyone who has hesitation about dating or doesn’t think they are cut out for it should talk to Neely.
Amy, 33
“Love, love, love my new profile — you’re the best! After reading what you wrote, my old profile pales in comparison. Based on your insight, you transformed my ordinary, cookie cutter profile, which read like a ‘laundry list’ into a very appealing, intriguing yet accurate portrayal. The online Dating eTrepover Questionnaire was thoughtful, introspective and worth the investment of time and energy in achieving the ultimate outcome. You have been great to work with, and I would highly recommend you and your book (a must read) to others — priceless! A very happy and thankful client!
Rebecca, 54
“While working with Neely I had my first kiss, had several marathon-dating weekends and ultimately found my first boyfriend. It was really helpful having her by my side to listen, advise and mostly help me be ok with the fact that I had not had any romantic relationships so that I could move forward and change that! The biggest thing that Neely helped me to do was feel like I was taking control of my dating life. Rather than being reactive, I felt like I was being proactive and taking steps to change my situation. Once there were clear goals and action steps, it no longer felt so daunting to be looking for a partner.
Tabitha, 30
“Neely helped me see things from a different perspective, reshape my approaches to dating and helped set expectations that I should aim for in a successful relationship. I really appreciated all the time that she took going over my writing assignments. It was clear that she was considering me as an individual. It was eye-opening. Neely made me see things in a different way than I had for a while.
Anne, 34
“Aloha Neely! I just wanted to share that I am loving your book. You are so relatable and your perspective is smart. I can’t put the book down. It reached me at a point where I wanted to just give up. Like you I wondered where are the good guys. I too believe in visualization, but never applied it to my love life. I am excited to know that a healthy and happy relationship is out there.
“As a dating coach, Neely Steinberg is truly gifted. She brings skilled training from multiple dimensions, good old fashioned common sense, humor, and wisdom to the table. She has a unique ability to bring together energy, writing talent, psychological training, tenacity, knowledge, savvy, and entrepreneurial skills. It was motivating to think entrepreneurially and creatively about my love life and Neely showed me how. She also created an amazing online profile for me (helpful when you are a busy professional) and led me to a photographer. She was attentive to every last detail including my hair, makeup, and wardrobe for my photo shoot. After my profile went live, we met every two weeks about my dating experiences and to work through a lot of my toxic patterns and beliefs. She is hardworking and organized, clever and witty. She is also a sleuth on the dating front, quick to spot potential red flags and highlighting signs of good potential. She challenges you, calls you out on toxic repetitive patterns vis-a-vis strengthening, applauding and empowering you. The combination of all of these attributes provides a very strong dating coach to any professional woman who perhaps does not have the time or savvy or simply does not know how to apply one’s strengths to tackle the seemingly simple but often complicated process of dating. It was a pleasure and privilege to work with Neely. Through the process, I found a wonderful man online who I am currently in a relationship with. This was after a many year period of drought and some level of hopelessness kicking in. I was very, very grateful for her services and I’m sure you will be, too.
Tina, 37
“I’m really enjoying your book! It’s great because so much of it is reinforcing what I already believe and adding to it. It’s definitely given me a framework that I can use.
Jenifer, 45
“Neely improved the daunting task of looking into my closet each day. When I get dressed now, it’s a much more positive experience, and I have more outfits that I feel comfortable and stylish in. I also feel that I know what to look for when trying on new (or old) clothes to make sure they are going to complement my shape. It was enlightening!
Laurie, 36
“I would like to thank Neely for jump-starting my dating life. I had been on Match for a couple of years. My profile was uninspired, and I had less than energetic photos. She set me up with a photographer who was a gem and rewrote my profile using the the guts of her thoughtful and detailed survey. With her guidance, I took responsibility and felt supported throughout the process of having my profile made over and navigating the site once I was up again on Match. My confidence and self-esteem skyrocketed with Neely’s caring yet direct help. I feel energized and comfortable in my own skin — and I’ve met someone wonderful.
Kathryn, 47
“I had such a great experience with you and want to share it with the world. You have no idea how much you have helped me, my dating life, and just my overall outlook. My attitude towards dating has changed drastically. Again, thank you so much for everything you’ve done for me. I miss our time together!
Megan, 30
“Thank you so much for an incredible shopping trip. I had so much fun at the event last night. I felt more confident with my new clothes and got some compliments on them as well! Its nice to be able to not be worrying about what you’re wearing. I found I could focus more on talking to people!
Sadie, 28, Cambridge


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